“He’s a male, but is he a man?”

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He’s a male because he’s born as such. Yet, as he “grows” does that automatically make him a man?

No. I know from my “experience” that every male over 21 isn’t a man. In fact, many are boys to their core.

Boys are immature, uncertain, inconsistent, rebellious, irresponsible, disloyal, unfaithful, impatient and disruptive.

Men are accountable, dependable, consistent, loyal, faithful, compromising, humbling, mature, chivalrous and subtle.

Now I won’t go too deep into this, because I honestly could go on and on and on….

I encourage you “women” to recognize the “boys to a core” you’ve been “baby sitting.”

Don’t be ashamed, don’t be desperate to “hold on” to someone whose pulling you down. By no means should you be carrying the weight he was designed to carry…. Know when enough is enough…

Remember women, ladies, and girls…  “You’re too amazing to let someone bring you down! You DESERVE to be happy and loved. NOBODY should make you feel anything less!”



#Candid “Know where your loyalties lie” Pt. 2

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I will no longer explain my reasoning behind why I’m affiliated with anyone!

People (esp a few in particular) kill me thinking that “you can’t” have a relationship with an ex or their family member “unless” there’s something “sneaky or sexual” going on..

I’m sick of people combating my “loyalties” because I don’t have a child or children with them and we weren’t ever married.

Yet the women or men many of you have children with or were married to; you have 0 % “amicable” communication & interactions with or acknowledgement from!

Some of your kids don’t even like or acknowledge you (for those who even know who you are)…

I’m officially done explaining myself or acknowledging your irrelevant, judgemental & obviously envious inquiries!

“Any and everyone” that disagrees with my relationships with anyone especially those from “my past”  NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND AND ACCEPT I’m loyal (often to a fault) and until I’m dismissed, betrayed, or I simply grow apart I’m going to do my best to remain amicable and loyal to those who’ve done the same for me!

Know where “your” loyalties lie! Don’t let anyone “deter” you….

People will have their opinions, but what’s an opinion have on “the facts?”

Not a got damned thing, y’all can have y’all dried up baby momma’s and baby father’s who you “ONLY communicate” with out of guilt or obligation, not because y’all have a connection- a comfort zone- a loyalty to one another that’s impenetrable…

I’ll assume you’re just mad that “I actually matter” to those who I’ve never had a child with, & you never did to those you have plenty of children with.

Lmao at you all.

Worry about yourself!

I got this….


“Be determined; not desperate!”



You’ve got to be determined to “get what you deserve” out of life. If you’ve been knocked down in life, don’t become desperate! Most times we make mistakes, sometimes we’re unprepared, other times we’ve simply sold ourselves short.

Often times many of us waste our potential and time being “hopeless romantics, serial daters, job hoppers, neighborhood/city hoppers, victims, and more!”

Meanwhile others are maximizing on their potential and time by “refusing” to accept anything less than the best = what they deserve.
Some us work for people, date people, help people, etc that aren’t on our level either intellectually, physically, or financially; if not all the above.

Once you’ve accepted yourself completely, it empowers you to “demand what you deserve!” Your determination to succeed will, well it should, prevent you from being desperate!

We all have our “weak (desperate)” moments or situations, however once you’ve realized that “you need, deserve and can obtain better” it’s time you work for it.

It’s time you wipe your tears, beat down your fears, and bury your oppressors and move forward knowing “you’ll reap what you sow” once you’ve let go of all that tries to pull you below….


Fear and Humility

You don’t need to fear anyone or anything, because in this life, you’ll never be able to please or beat everyone that you encounter. They’ll be people and situations that you won’t have any control over.

The ignorant ‘mistake’ some people’s humility with fear. It’s not fear, it’s self control and self respect. Never regret being humble…..

I urge you to press forward and hold your head to the sky, because understand this; sometimes the strongest person is the one who allows him or herself to ‘appear’ weak temporarily.

People who are quick to demeanor, boast, or brag are people who are living in pride and because they lack a normal amount of humility, they always come up short.

They are situations where you must ‘stand your ground and defend what is right’ however you know whose worth acknowledging and whose not.

Everyone that get’s you wrong doesn’t deserve the time it takes to ‘correct’ them.

Embrace and control your humility….. you’d surprised to learn it’s actually one of your greatest strengths..

Yours Truly,

#CANDID Blacks/African Americans – Consumed by consumerism

We pride ourselves in having the appearance of “the life” without actually having it. Competing, oppressing others, & selfishness.

We rarely “own” our homes, cars; before we’re 80 some don’t ever own theirs; but the Whites, Hispanics/Mexicans, & Asian “children” come into their adulthood “owning” homes, cars, & businesses!

Their not all “rich & privileged” either! They work & teach their children the power in “owning” & establishing a stable means of income, & a stable lifestyle while helping & teaching others.

Many Black’s specifically “think” they’re rich because “right now” they can “afford” to pay a car note, mortgage, buy this designer or another, & more.

Yet these same people complain about “what others have!” Only a few complain about what others don’t have. These people “refuse” to help “strangers” because they don’t sincerely help anyone “they can’t immediately & directly” benefit from. They rarely help those in their family, close friends or coworkers!

These people display oppressive, tyrannical, uncompromising, unaccountable, selfishness, conniving behavior towards anyone who doesn’t “glorify them & their things.”

They especially show discontent towards those who can’t be manipulated by them or their things.

Our priorities as a people “Black/African American” or as I joke “American African” LOL ..  must be revised otherwise we’ll continue being “enslaved” by the corporate industry & consumerism!

Black’s take more pride in “beating each other down” than they’ll ever take in uplifting each other. It’s only a few who uplift
“sincerely.” We work to obtain materialistic’s while our characters wither away.

We break down families “within our culture” while we “work” to build other cultures families, their family businesses, & more.

If we don’t wake up & regain our “sense of self” & our place within our culture; we’ll continue to have generations of “young parents” & little, to no young business owners or success stories!

It’ll be a bunch of ostentatious, irresponsible, presumptuous, evil, immature people who’ll continue spreading their distorted perceptions of richness.

Richness contrary to popular belief is indicative of your character (spirit); that’s worth more than your weight in gold.

God will not concern himself with, nor will he ask you “how much money you’ve made, how expensive your home, clothes, shoes, etc were” yet he will go down the list to “evaluate” your worthiness based on your ability to maintain his Ten Commandments & your ability to be accountable & humble where you’ve fallen short.

He’ll check off the list “how many times you’ve turned the other cheek, how you’ve used your God given talent to help someone who couldn’t pay you what your worth, if at all. He’ll look at your ability to be remorseful & accountable for your wrongdoing against those who you committed evil against unjustifiably! Your ability to honor your mother, father, etc.

These are just some of the things that you’ll be judged on.

Be proud of what you’ve earned. Be willing to help & teach those who could never repay you.  Don’t let your pride consume you. Once your pride consumes you, you then become consumed by consumerism.

Please understand I am striving for better, however I’m going to work smart & not hard to achieve my goals.

I’ve always “sincerely” helped others, I’ll continue doing so; despite the fact I’d love to profit from my skills.

Please note, I’m not “obsessed” with the profit.

I’m “obsessed” with my “quality of life” for myself & family; in addition to positively influencing & impacting all those I come in contact with (within reason & respect to human nature).

Having richness in character will afford you a place in Heaven.

Stop trying to create heaven on earth, because it’s impossible. Even the most wealthiest person in the world, can’t buy life; they can only simply disengage while awaiting death.

Yours Truly,

#CANDID Stop trying to people please, unless you intend on living life on your knees!

Often times in life we try to convince others that we’re deserving or capable of one thing or another.

We sacrifice ourselves beyond reason to attempt to “please or prove ourselves” to these people.

I urge you to ask yourself, “what exactly is wrong with me that I feel I need to *please * others, before pleasing myself?”

I’d also like to ask yourself “what intimidates them about me that they’re constantly oppressing me? To uplift themselves!”

Then last but not least “why am I desperately clinging to a life or relationship of despair?”

There’s no perfect person. We all have a past, a present and future we’re all going to be held accountable for; if not during our lifetime, upon our demise “we will be judged & punished or rewarded accordingly!”

With that being said: “get up and shake the devil and his advocates off!”

Trying to please, or convince people especially those you have hurt, lied to, or disappointed in another way; will have you figuratively and in some cases physically “begging” this person or people to “accept and believe you!”

Understand this…. Some people “only” claim to have forgiven you, so they can “punish you themselves” by breaking your spirit first. Once they’ve broken you spiritually then they break you physically.

The spirit controls everything, so once they’ve convinced you “without their presence or approval” you’re nothing, then your spirit is weak and they can manipulate you, which controls how you think, feel and what you do!

If you find yourself always “questioning yourself” especially your most purest intentions, then you’ve been had!

Look up, realize this person is over you like a dark cloud on a sunny day, determined to steal your shine, to increase theirs!

Get up, brush yourself off, and remind yourself of who you were, are, and aspiring to be.

Be honest, don’t fool yourself!

Don’t be a victim to someone else fooling you either!

Yet, don’t allow yourself to become a punching bag for a retired fighter. Meaning there’s people who are beating you down because that’s all they can do, to stop or hinder you.

Your potential, character, and behaviors intimidate them tremendously. They fear your success! They fear your strength! They fear your mere “individualized” presence especially once they realize they no longer have the ability to “control, manipulate or fool you!”

Take with you this, if anyone makes you second guess about yourself, then it’s time to get rid of the burden and come into your spiritual wealth… That’s restoration of your mental and physical health, meaningful relationships, financial stability and much more.

Yours Truly,