#PSA #Candid “I’m sickened by the cycle so many have become content with!” Ugh….. #SingleParenting #Relationships #Anxiety

Ladies that “list” you have will leave you lonely.

If you don’t possess 50% of the qualities you’re seeking in a mate, especially a husband; please stop wasting his time while ruining his life.

A lot of you have life twisted thinking your antics are acceptable or desirable.

You’re right there’s no good men, because you’re not a good woman to your core therefore all you can attract is what lies within you magnets attract other magnets, so don’t point the finger, wipe off the makeup, pull off the weave, take off the eyelashes and think back to those many late nights and early mornings you’ve had, then ask yourself “am I giving what I’m expecting to receive?”

If you answer that honestly and you make the necessary adjustments, you’ll see your whole world change and your love life improve.

I must admit I don’t believe we’re all meant to be because some people will always choose to live in their free will versus trying to do things by faith and to benefit the greater good not only themselves.

IJS this is my opinion based on my experiences with many of you.

It’s crazy because we “create and raise” the very “type” of men we then in turn complain about, allow to abuse is, wrongfully advise and accuse us, etc..

Hmm when will it end?

Lord, please bless the thoughts, heart and home of the young lady my son is to court in the future especially his first love.

As I listen and look around the pickings are almost non existent especially in regards to the possibility of having to deal with a damaged, bitter or overbearing single mother or an inconsistent passive single father.

Smh lord please bless those that I am to meet in the future, please spare my child and our family not only the nuisance but the turmoil that a family of opposing views, upbringings, etc would cause.

Smh I’m sickened by the cycle so many have become so content with. Ugh



#PSA #Autism Sleeping patterns, sensory overloads, and growth spurts


Above please see the pictures of #Jr #Autism #Gemini.

He’s slept “late” meaning way past 5:30am for the past two days. Now the past two days he’s experienced “sensory overloads.” Which are directly related to the “brightness of the sun, the tones and volumes on the tv, tablet, etc.

Due to an incident that occurred on Saturday, my tone of voice and disciplinarian actions/volumes also caused a sensory overload. 

Jr’s also been staying up late for the last week, because he’s on Spring Break. Now that Spring Break is “nearing it’s end” it’s time to get him back on track. 

I have noticed that since “2010” diagnosis that he has growth spurts that don’t necessarily occur annually. He’s going through another growth spurt right now, because his teeth are coming in, he’s getting taller, he’s getting hair on his face, legs, arms, etc. He’s also expanding his vocabulary and thought processes. 

I have to make conscious decisions to “force Jr down to nap.” He needs to nap because as he get’s older the sensory issues seem to get better and not as irritating, however “the energy that he exerts to suppress the irritation or to self soothe” still drains him and he needs rest like any other person with #SpecialNeeds to rejuvenate!

I have also revised his “recreation time” in the house so that’s it’s broken down into intervals. He uses the computer, the tablet, watches tv, reads books, free plays with his father primarily and myself secondarily, in addition we go outside and allow him to free play and play structured activities also.

His “naps or sleeping late” are meditative therapy for Jr. It works. I find that “everytime” he’s rejuvenated he’s more “alert, aware and accountable” overall! 

I’m currently “planning” to expand his recreational and educational activities to give him more balance and more structure at the same time. 

He needs more educational activities to stimulate and increase his intellectual capacity and curiosities, in addition to recreational activities to exert the abundance of energy he has that he uses primarily for “stemming or self soothing” behaviors to maintain his composure especially in a restricted environment like school, church, etc. 

He’s currently playing on the tablet as I’m blogging. Once he comes back upstairs since he’d slept so late, he’ll be allowed to watch tv. 

To my surprise and joy, he LOVES watching WETA Kids on his own. He LOVES “Sid the Science Kid, Caillou, WordGirl, etc” and those are the “educational activities” that stimulate and increase his intellectual capacity and curiosities. 

I must reluctantly admit that he does also enjoy “Boondocks, Family Guy, American Dad etc” it actually helps with that stemming and self soothing that he does, because it allows him to “be himself uninhibited” and that his father and I really enjoy; despite the fact that we have to “explain to him” the things that “he already knows” but doesn’t quite comprehend are inappropriate and not at all age appropriate. 

I always tell Jr those shows are your version of Mommy’s wine! We both LOL

I’m grateful for the times when Jr’s resting “Well!” I enjoy seeing him resting because I know that he needs it. I encourage parents to incorporate “napping” into their child’s schedule, especially the older they get. 

Growing up with Bipolar Disorders and recently being given an additional diagnosis of PTSD; I’ve learned to appreciate a “nap” here and there because it really helps protect and maintain not only your mental health but your overall physical health as well! 

For tips on creating or revising your schedules, making visual supports, creating activities, etc. Please feel free to email me at: tiffanyatsunshine@gmail.com also feel free to text me (202) 681-6244. Please include at the very least, your first name “or your preferred name. 

Understand all inquiries etc, will be responded to “no later than 48 hours” from the time of receipt. 

Remember my motto and keep the faith and keep pressing forward. 

“Autism isn’t a disability, it’s the ability to see and experience the world differently!” 


Official Farewell to my farce of friends and family

FYI I’m OVER the “farce of friends and family” IF you are seeing me appear “in people you may know” it’s because I’m someone “you MAY know” however haven’t made a “realistic effort” in actually getting to know me.

I’ve reached out via inbox, I’ve even attended events in an attempt to “show you” my LOVE outweighs my mistakes etc and that I can’t change the past, I can ONLY improve the future.

Since you “STILL” obviously harbor some discontent for me and you ALL have decided to NOT reach back out to me realistically yet you “Are more than comfortable” sitting, watching, judging and discussing me “continue to do that at a distance!”

I have a “follow” button for a reason and since you aren’t “here with me” you might as well “follow” me since that’s all you were doing anyway.

My spirit is reincarnated and it’s tired of the spirits it’s encountered century after century and therefore I’m no longer “hoping” for what directly negates reality of people and situations.

It’s pointless and costly.

Time is the one thing you can’t get back once lost, just like feelings well at least mine anyway.

Once I’m done wasting my time and energy ((emotions/feelings)) on you, you cease to exist therefore you must be dismissed because your presence lacks relevance and capacity.

Yes there’s been issues in the past with both sides of my family and even my husband’s family and I’ve done my best to make amends, not take shots at the bullshit I see and feel, but to NO AVAIL.

I mean I’ve posted my number “numerous times” and I haven’t YET to receive a call from any of these people that “claim I’ve wronged them, etc ” yet they are “watching me constantly” NOT communicating with me here on Social media “UNLESS” I reach out first and I’m sitting here thinking to myself, really?

Ok, fuck it.

I have a family! I don’t need or want anyone in my life that’s still living in or holding me to my past.

Actions speak louder than words.


#CANDID: Google Me Once, Google Me Twice, I’m happy to know “I’m the constant search query” in your life!


Since everyone “keeps Googling my name” how about you “narrow your results” let me assist you with that…#HBIC #VIRGO #TIFFANY and 
 are most popular hashtags to assist you in “prying into my life!”

Better still why don’t “those who have the actual gal reach out directly to me (202) 681-6244” and ask me all your questions or vent all your frustrations!

What are you cunts and lame dudes going to do once Google updates their features to report the IP Address from which you’re searching me from?

IJS what would you like to know? I can help you! Don’t ask my neighbor (Google) come to me! 

At first, I thought “oh wow!” I’m being “Googled” especially after my Tweet (please see below):

OWN Viewers <ownviewers@harpostudios.com>

Feb 6

to me
 Hi Tiffany!
Thanks for getting back to us! We are interested in using your tweet in an on-air promo in regards to OWN‘s programming. Below is the tweet(s) we hope to use:
“#LoveThyNeighbor great family oriented, southern hospitality humor. ♥ ♥ I’m looking forward to seeing more!”

started being used by the OWN TV Network as promotion for the Tyler Perry show aired on her network “#LoveThyNeighbor” I thought “great” I’m famous now LOL I mean you must be famous when folks start Googling!

Now, it’s a tad irritating because I receive emails “throughout the day” from Google informing me that “my name was Googled again!” It’s increased and expanded because many of you are now Googling my son and my husband’s name!

What’s the sickest part of it all is that I’m 90% certain via my ESP that it’s “people we knew = excommunicated from” who have no other means = portals into our lives and this is their only recourse, because they aren’t bold enough to approach us in real life with their fake asses.

The remaining 10% is the general public who has seen my name, blog, etc online and are intrigued but would like to know more about me, my background, my credentials and more.

Now, I’ve had “numerous” profiles removed online. The only information that’s available to you is “blog related” anything else you won’t get.

I don’t have a criminal record. I don’t have any real estate that’s had a lien, etc on it. I don’t currently have any additional “investments or properties” that are “public record!”

Again, if you’re looking for some detailed information, why not contact me directly? Especially if there’s some financial gain involved! Let’s write this book. Let’s make this movie. Have me come out and be a public speaker.

But don’t try and be sneaky.

Don’t try and “find dirt on me” because I have told people before looking for dirt on me, your ignorant ass is so busy digging that you don’t realize your ass is standing in the very hole you attempted to dig for and throw me in!


#CANDID: Females ….. Why are you “mentally” locked up (incarcerated) with him? When you’re “physically” free. #Relationships #Incarceration #Loyalty #Enabling #Communication

I’m appalled at the extent some “females” will go to for the males in their lives who are behind bars.

For some I try to understand within reason, for others I just feel sorry for.

I’ve witnessed countless incidents where females have been physically and verbally abused prior to these males being incarcerated and it continues even while they’re incarcerated.

How do you females do it, time and time again?

Even I’m guilty of writing letters, etc; but that again was “within reason and at my convenience!”

It’s been at least “12 years” hmm maybe 15, a long ass time LOL since I’ve actually supported a male locked up to the extent I realized I was mentally locked up with them.

It got to a point where I looked over some vault records and confirmed these were habitual criminals who were to their core problematic children I.e., “boys to their cores.”

I made a conscious decision to limit my connections and contact with those incarcerated.

I was and will forever be done with the antics and oblivion.

These males thrive off their ability to maintain their standards while living in federal penitentiaries.

They are more concerned with being sent money so they can email, postal mail, make calls, buy clothes, shoes etc; than they’ll ever be with reforming.

Even recently, as in “this year already and all of last year” I’ve seen it continue.

Females are being verbally abused and physically, specifically financially and emotionally while these males are incarcerated.

They’re being spoken to any kind of way! 

Yet, they still send their money.

They’re being rushed, ridiculed, and reprimanded all by a criminal. A person who isn’t in a position to even think about what someone else is doing wrong to the extent they’re chastising them. 

What hold does he have “on you?”

Oh he’s your son. And?

Oh he’s your son or daughter’s father? And?

Oh he’s your husband. And?

Oh you’ve known him so long, he’s been there for you in the past so you feel obligated etc. And?

You miss him. And?

You really think he’s going to change “this time.” And?

He’s changed a little. And?

You “need him.” And?

You love him. And?

I’m just saying, I’ve heard all the excuses.

Honestly, in the past I’ve said a few Lmao.

So, please miss me with the attempts to put me on a guilt trip for speaking the truth.

Please miss me with the attempts to have my “agree” with you. Understand on this “topic” I’ll NEVER agree with anyone who enables another person, especially a female who enables a male. 

You need to calculate the money you spend monthly on “financing” his failures.

You’re rewarding him for his crime. You’re showering him and he’s not even dripping on you!

You’re drunk in love and he’s sober in his cell.

You’re a damned fool!

Your desperate.

The question is “are you better than that or is that befitting to you?

Do you deserve better?

Better still, do you need better?

Do you want better?

Is he your ideal mate?

If you divide how you feel about him by what he actually contributes, what are you left with?

Does the years he’s been free outweigh the years he’s been physically incarcerated, keeping you mentally locked up with him?”

I mean y’all are sad. Like seriously sad.

Y’all rushing home from work to send money, or check emails and voicemail to see if they’ve reached out.

You’re doing exactly what they’re telling you to do! 

NOT realizing that “he couldn’t do what he knew he should do or was told to do” when he was free!

Yet, he’s “compliant while incarcerated and is now equipped to tell you how you should be living?” SMH LMAO Sweetheart, wake up… or move in closer and let me smack some sense into you!!! 

You’re allowing them to make you feel bad because they’re incarcerated.

Are you that desperate? To control. To be relevant. To be paid some attention. To feel like you’re needed and appreciated. To know you’re being advantage taken and continue to allow it.

Are you that needy?

Can’t you stand alone?

Couldn’t you stand better and with more confidence with a male who actually deserves all that and will reciprocate without arrogance, future disrespect, and repeating offenses awaiting?

What kind of hold does he have on you?

Do you even know?

Do you want to know?

Are you comfortable with him?

Are you ready to deal with it, once you find it out?

I really want to know.

On the other hand, I don’t.

Honestly, I’ll be rude anyway because it’ll never make sense why “females” allow themselves to mentally be locked up while they’re physically free.

I’ll never understand the logic in a female entertaining a male in any aspect especially the possibility of a “productive” relationship with a male whose incarcerated.

If a male is locked up at least twice in 8-10years really within 5-7 of knowing him and he serves 2-5 he’s not going to change.

IF in those rare occasions he does it will take time, that I’d suggest you not hold your breath for.

Now there’s rare occasions where they’ll serve under 10 maybe even 15-20 and come home reformed.

You’ll for see it based on your interactions or lack thereof with them.

However most cases I’ve seen this happen in are those who had to make it on their own in jail.

They may have had someone helping them out but not “completely footing their bills!” 

Yes, some had a grudge because people didn’t write etc but they came home and took care of themselves.

Even those that didn’t hold a grudge, were focused turned their lives around and from what I know haven’t been in anymore serious trouble since.

I encourage you females to take your mental freedom back and stop allowing someone locked up, to lock you up.

You need to stand your ground and invest that money, time and energy into someone or something that you’re actually going to get a return on.

95% of the males locked up aren’t ever reforming even if they’re released. They’ll keep selling you dreams and spending your money on their failures and farces.

The 5% will come home and make a difference. They’ll walk a new path. They’ll give back to their families and communities

Help me, help the “males” who will be men will the proper assistance, guidance and ambition; so that those percentages can be 95% reformed, 5% incapable. Versus the way the percentages are looking now. 

Please leave your thoughts, experiences and opinions below! Thanking you in advance.