PARENTS: Do you do “character checks” on your children?

I’d like to know if parents are ACTUALLY “parenting” these days!

Recently, I’ve seen an increase in social media posts discussing children under the age of 16, who are engaged in sexually inappropriate conversations, media sharing and behaviors.

How are “children” getting into all of this “without the parent’s knowledge?”

Social Media + Technology + an unsupervised, unloved, or overlooked child = a detrimental situation, temporarily or permanently.

I, b/c of my upbringing, pride myself in the M.O. of performing “character checks” on my children; especially my son diagnosed with Autism (High Functioning) who will be 13 next year.

A character check simply consists of ensuring that his activities/apps/relationships are age and intellect appropriate.

I perform these checks consistently, yet randomly. Consistently b/c the checks take place every 3 months. Randomly b/c he never knows, nor do I, when the check will take place.

I’m very intuitive to everything and everyone.

There’s been times I’ve instinctively checked his phone and seen that he’s visited a porn site viewing women.

We then talk about what he’s viewing, why he’s viewing it and if he’s already engaging or considering engaging soon. We discuss the emotional aspects, the health aspects and more.

EVERY child denies that they are “considering engaging soon” b/c it’s embarrassing, it makes them anxious b/c they don’t understand everything happening to them (the arousal, the opposite sex all of a sudden smelling different, making them feel different when they’re near, etc) and it is our job as their parents to NOT make them think this is “green light” to become promiscuous, but we must ensure even more, that we don’t make them feel uncomfortable or embarrassed to speak with us about it.

PARENTS MUST BE INTUITIVE WITH RESPECT TO THEIR CHILDREN!!! 

If you’re a parent and you can’t “sense” when your child is in: distress, frustrated, angry, happy, etc then you’re NOT parenting as you should be!

I am NOT apologizing for that.

I am beyond livid with parents who believe that b/c they “pay” for the best schools, to live in the best neighborhoods, wear the latest fashions, etc that they are parenting!

LMAO honey you are “leasing” parenting but you are NOT parenting.

Parenting to me is making sacrifices that supersede your own personal needs and wants.

Parenting to me is “being in tune” with your offspring b/c your primary purpose here on Earth is to procreate. Therefore if you’re blessed with offspring, you must teach (guide), protect and provide for them, until they can do for themselves; then later return those blessings to you in your elder years. 

What are your thoughts or methods of operation?

 

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY 

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Be grateful ……

Life is short.

Life is what you make it.

ALWAYS strive to be the “best version of yourself/maximize your full potential”

yet BE GRATEFUL …….

I have seen people that were “on top” hit rock bottom “simultaneously” as those they were “looking down on” were rising to the top.

I am grateful for all my experiences EVEN those that “I caused due to poor decision making!”

We all have different life paths to travel, b/c all our life purposes aren’t the same, but they will align.

While you’re watching others, you’re failing to see what’s right in front of you.

The last two years have been amazing and simultaneously painful. I have wanted to give up and I have wanted to propel forward.

I am currently just basking in gratefulness, b/c despite all that’s happened negatively to me and around me, I’m blessed beyond measure.

Being grateful can really make a positive impact ….. try it and you’ll see!!

 

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY

#CANDID: MALES why are you “allowing” yourself to be abused? In the name of love? Because you have children? You’re chivalrous? Etc. You have a right to stand up for yourself or end things once you’ve reached your wit’s end!! #Relationships #Abuse #Communication #TurningPoints

*from 4 years ago, date,etc unknown* 

WHOEVER SHE WAS…. LET HER GO!

IDC who she “was” to you.

I’ve seen “countless women” in my husband’s inbox, email, etc and I’ve NEVER gone into his phone and contacted any of them b/c that’s his job to “quarantine or check” any and everything that he believes to be inappropriate, etc. there’s no cure for an insecure woman.

She’ll only “find other means” to attempt to run or snoop on your life.

When a women shows you how grimy, insecure, and childish she is “the first time” believe her and keep it moving.

Don’t waste your time “hoping she’ll change or restricting yourself b/c she has trust issues that start from within” I swear I’m sick of these got damned insecure childish ass females that keep screaming they’re women!

Yeah right, sit your weak ass down somewhere! I’m praying you get rid of her versus altering your lifestyle… 

My point is that “he knows damn well how crazy I was and still am…” however he also knows “how narcissistic I am” and how I “know my place” in any man’s life that I’m dealing with in any capacity especially my mate (my husband rather since I’ m currently married).

Women need to be “checked or left” at the first incident, not given “The benefit of the doubt” too many men give! 

Davey Crockett you’re good LOL I always “intrigue people” especially when I’m the only woman who bashes female antics versus getting with them.

My testerone level is always at 60 or more so I can’t empathize with female antics b/c I don’t live or function in them! 

 #HBIC #TIffany #Virgo.…. here. Pun intended for all “girls” pretending to be “women!” …. AGE isn’t indicative of maturity and once “men” understand that, they’ll be better off.

My husband is 25 years my senior and with all my flaws I’m his ideal mate, b/c there’s no competition with a “woman” b/c a girl can’t compete with or compare to her.

I’ve done him better and handled things even when livid “as a woman” than the “girls” he’s previously had children/relationships with.

See I’m not about “appearing to be” …. 

I’m about “Being” what I say I am………. without a shadow of a doubt.

At the end of the day, a mammal “will be a mammal” you understand.

Sexually we are all attracted and gravitated towards one another at some point in time and space.

The maturity comes in when you’re able to recognize this reality, not indulge in it or not be consumed by the emotions in brings that distorts our perception of reality.

I’m actually writing a blog post loosely based on a similar topic about women who are abusive to the men in their lives especially their children’s father and what men can do to prevent or check this behavior and deformation that so many of you face…

I could go on but the way my Moscato is setup …… LOL

I welcome your thoughts, comments, or suggestions…… 

 

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY

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Send a text like this:

“Notary services requested from _______ please call or text me back with your location and availability” to (202) 681-6244.

I typically reply within 24 hours, if not, it’s the following business day (excluding Sundays).

You can also “use the contact form” provided via the “Contact” section here on the website.

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Thanking you in advance.

#HBIC_Philanthropy

#Employment #Morale #Retention

As an addendum to a discussion from LinkedIn …..

I believe companies should embrace implementing the “shadowing” approach as it relates to recruitment & retention. I enjoyed shadowing a coworker, as it gave me hands-on experience regarding my daily responsibilities. At the end of shadowing, any experience I didn’t come into the company with, had been gained.

I KNOW having “Senior (more experienced) staff” provide the guidelines/expectations of the employee, yet gives them space/time to grow (90 days minimum) is best. It’s funny how managers forgot what is was like “obtaining their first job” & how terrible they probably did their first day(s).

Empathy goes a long way in increasing employee morale & retention. I chose NOT to remain at companies once I believe/confirmed my skillset wasn’t efficient enough to maintain the job/look at growth potential, my boss didn’t seem concerned with assisting me in acquiring the educational background to make up for what I lacked in experience, or my boss wouldn’t give me additional responsibilities so I could attain experience.

It is very difficult to gain experience, when opportunities are scarce/restricted. More employers need to embrace “entry level” positions b/c it would also reduce cost of hiring temp agencies & increase retention.

 

*Thoughts anyone?*

 

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY

When you’ve outgrown certain people and things, nothing remains the same!

I’m maturing extremely fast. There’s so much that I no longer think about & damn sure don’t want to partake in. I’m not perfect but I’m conscious! I’ve learned that people will pretend to wish you well, only to stand on the sidelines & watch you suffer.

I’ve learned most listening ears are running mouths if not quietly envious. I’ve learned people can have more than you & still be envious of you. I’ve learned once people know your weaknesses whether it be sex, drugs, money, etc they’ll pretend to be your friend or even claim to love you; only to exploit you & they won’t support you 100% no questions asked or attempts to pull you in once you’ve decided to change for the better.

I’ve learned you’re not truly in love until you don’t want to, you don’t think about cheating anymore; not only sexually but emotionally & financially. I’ve learned some people are so ignorant & desperate to be wanted they’ll date someone else’s spouse in belief they’ll have a great relationship & then wonder why they have issues! Understand usually if a person cheats with you, they’ll eventually cheat on you! Not to mention if you dealt with them while they were married or legally separated but not divorced, they’ll never belong to you! They didn’t to begin with.

I’ve learned people have children they resent & use as pawns in their bitter battles, yet are too selfish & desperate to admit it & give the children a better life with someone who’ll take care of & love them genuinely. They’d rather overcompensate with materialistics! I’ve learned people are having children, living together, etc but don’t want to get or claim not to be ready for marriage. I’ve learned some are so desperate to be acknowledged as an adult they’re having children but are technically children themselves because they have nothing of their own but cellphones, tattoos, & a lot of clothes & emotional baggage!

I’ve learned people who are from you or your spouses past will try to make them or you out to be terrible people but can’t tell you why they’ve never remarried or found a love like what they had in you or your spouse. I’ve learned blood makes you related but loyalty makes you family.

I’ve learned some people won’t ever advance their way of living or thinking, no matter how much damage it’s causing them, their children, or their loved ones.

I’ve learned that what’s truly meant for you will always be for you! I’ve learned I’ll irritate some people with this, others I’ll enlighten.

Either way I’m content & satisfied with the woman I am.

 

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY

Be and do you, because what’s for you will always be for you!

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(the picture above is one of my favorites because I am a woman, however the statement & my blog post below is applicable to both men & women)

I don’t like cowards or people who are silently competitive with me, for no reason; especially when everything I’m doing benefits us. It never seeks to amaze me at how people who claim to support you, secretly envy & attempt to block your efforts when theirs are hindered in some way or fail entirely.

There’s always someone who will see you moving & because they believe that what they’re doing or working on, will manifest before yours; they’re content with watching you “struggle.” The moment your efforts manifest into something tangible, they’ll go into panic mode & begin on a non-stop pursuit to catch up or block you entirely!

Don’t allow this to put fear in you, don’t allow this to slow you down, don’t allow this to cause you to doubt the process in which your blessings are to manifest themselves.

STAY FOCUSED! STAY COOL! KEEP YOUR FAITH!

Believe me I am currently watching, listening, but most importantly internally LMAO because I am being blessed & there’s a person, if not a few people who simply can’t stand that it isn’t them.

Recently, I have worked hard to overcome personal & professional boundaries that I believed would hinder my ability to accomplish the very things I have accomplished in the past few months, however I kept my faith & my stride!

I am now awaiting a final confirmation before I step into one blessing, prior to birthing my second child.

Yes, if you didn’t already know, I have also been blessed with the opportunity to birth another child, after experiencing fertility issues & trying to get pregnant for the past nine years!

Funny how God’s timing is never based on the watches we wear or the calendars we keep! What’s meant to be will be, & what isn’t, won’t!

All I can say is pray, plan, & press forward; despite what others think & do, because “what’s for you will ALWAYS be for you!”

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY