How do we ensure our children are successful against all odds? —- #SpecialNeeds #Autism #Disabilities #Parenting #Education #Success

As we’ve already been into the school year for little over a month now, my son diagnosed with Autism has had to overcome some minor obstacles. He’s at a new school that is inclusive of children from grades Pre-K through 12th grade! He’s a nine year old, fourth grader.

The first day of school for our family was quite overwhelming due to the following:

  1. I’m pregnant, I have Bipolar Disorders and PTSD; so currently I’m extremely sensitive to lights, sounds, smells, etc.
  2. Our son diagnosed with Autism,he too has sensory issues, specifically lights and sounds.
  3. The noise level was extremely high as the morning music being played via the intercom system not only contained major static, it went on for more than 5 minutes which seemed to be a bit much.
  4. The organization of the children to be dismissed to their classrooms wasn’t efficient. It didn’t make sense to me why we weren’t allowed to take our children directly to their classrooms since we’d (the parents) had been given their teacher/classroom assignments the week prior. We had to be packed into the auditorium and then beginning with the Pre-K class, each class was called to line up, in single file format, and then escorted to their assigned rooms. This again “to me” was a step that was an unnecessary waste of time. If they (the school staff) needed to speak with the parents regarding the schools curriculum, school rules, etc. I personally felt that could’ve been done after we’d gotten the children settled into their classrooms and introduced to their teachers. It would’ve reduced a lot of the noise and overall anxiety in everyone.
  5. I didn’t like and still do NOT like the “community supplies!” This is why I purposely only “send 1/2” of the requested supplies to school and I distribute what my child “needs” throughout the year upon request from the teacher. I explain to “EVERY” teacher he’s had, at the previous and current school, due to his Autism there are certain types of pencils, crayons, and markers that I purchase for him since he’s no longer in occupational therapy and we are working to maintain his stability without that support. It’s amazing how they will ONLY admit that all the supplies listed on the school supply list ARE NOT for your child specifically and that majority of those supplies will be placed into a container that “they will distribute” to the students as needed, when you ask. If you NEVER question it, you’ll never know. That is unfair to parents who can afford to purchase the supplies, because it gives parents who can’t or simply claim they can’t an opportunity to NOT get or inquire about getting resources to assist them in that area. What about the funding that the schools receive? Can’t some of that funding go to “purchase school supplies for the less fortunate?” Each year “I offer” to bring in additional supplies for children who may need them in the event there are parents who are TRULY “low or no income” and therefore can’t accommodate such. Mind you, I’ve been unemployed since “March 15” and prior to that I was unemployed from “January 12 – November 14” and I still managed to “buy” my son his school supplies. Being a previous employee of his previous school, and a previous Vice Chairperson of the Parent Policy Council via United Planning Organization (UPO); I have witnessed many parents, “purposely” wait until the “free school supply giveaways take place” and they only contribute the bare minimum, while their children benefit from parents like myself who are actually purchasing good quality supplies for their child. THIS IS A POLICY I AM TRULY GOING TO FIGHT TO HAVE REVOKED OR REVISED EFFICIENTLY!!!! Again, I ask what about the funding the schools receive? Can’t some of that funding go to “purchase school supplies for the less fortunate?” If they can ALWAYS delegate funding to go towards the teachers computers (IMacs, Dells, and HPs) or the students electronic devices (IPads, Chromebooks) why can’t they delegate even a small portion towards school supplies? Hmm again I’ll continue working on that behind the scenes as time goes on or I’ll continue putting my foot down if I continue to get resistance on discussing and resolving the matter.

Here are the great things I noticed about the first days and weeks:

I enjoyed seeing that my son was able to make a quick adjustment to the noise and the lights. He was still a bit apprehensive regarding entering the room and engaging immediately with the other children. I explained to him prior to him attending the school and during our summer tour, how “chaotic, but beneficial” attending such a school would be for him. I explained that he needs to become more comfortable in “large crowds and lots of noise” because that’s the reality of the world that we live in. I explained that with his Autism he needs to be able to function within these types of environment efficiently and without having fear or a meltdown.

He understood and we made our plans accordingly and as realistic as possible without ever having attended a school like this. This new school contains lockers which require a combination lock. This is something my son has never seen or experienced working with. He still doesn’t have a combination lock. Before I purchase the lock I want to ensure that he’s comfortable “placing his items in, removing them, staying organized, etc” without having the added pressure of remembering a combination to enter and exit it.

He enjoys having a locker! It reinforces him being a “big boy” and slowly approaching his teenage years.

He’s already gotten accustomed to the new schedule, he’s enjoying his new lunchbox. His new lunchbox is from Costco it’s called “Arctic Zone Ultra High Performance Expandable Double Capacity Lunch Pack!” This works great! The ice pack remains frozen and keeps the contents cool from approximately 7:30am until 5:00pm daily. His school days begins at 8 but ends at 4 pm, however some days in our haste we may not unpack the lunch pack until around 5 pm because he’s anxious to get in and get settled after a long day at school. Each day you’d swear he’s been to work. I believe he experiences a partial or complete sensory overload daily but is learning to overcome it. I recall several days rushing back downstairs to unpack and place the ice pack in the freezer only to find that his salad was still quite cool as if it had been refrigerated and the ice pack contained at least a piece of ice inside and was still cold itself! This was a great investment. I am going to purchase one for myself as a proactive measure, since I’m eager to return to work either prior to or shortly after we welcome our new baby!!!

If you’re interested in purchasing the lunch pack you can get a great description and pricing from Amazon, by visiting the following link: http://www.amazon.com/Arctic-Zone-Performance-Expandable-Capacity/dp/B00XQ2IOJ8/ref=sr_1_1? ie=UTF8&qid=1442942856&sr=8-1&keywords=arctic+zone+lunch+boxes.

Oddly I couldn’t pull up the lunch pack on Costco. com and became thoroughly annoyed so my trusty backup “Amazon” came in handy!!

He’s also enjoying his new High Sierra Elite backpack. It contains plenty of pockets and room for a laptop if needed. Again since Costco.com isn’t pulling it up (possibly because these are “in store only items I am assuming” you can visit the following link: http://www.amazon.com/High-Sierra-Business-Backpack-Suspended/dp/B00K8897HQ.

He’s also integrated into the classroom quite well. I am awaiting a followup regarding their initial review of him in the classroom so that we can create a 504 plan befitting for him and this school. He’s integrated so well, he’s actually been asked to “not talk as much” go figure in class! LMAO there’s always a catch 22! He took the redirection on the chin and kept it moving. I explained to him that I’m happy that he’s making new friends and adjusting and none of the children are making fun of him. I also explained that he doesn’t want to allow his excitement to interfere with classroom instruction; that’s what lunch and recess is for.

This school doesn’t have recess daily. I have a love hate for it. I love it because it’s teaching the children early on that life isn’t “fun or a game” however I hate it because it doesn’t give them the time they need to de-stress throughout the day. I already see how exhausted Jr is daily after coming home. He is very adamant however about completing his homework within hours of arriving home, so that his evenings are his to “relax” as he so often puts it.

What I am doing to ensure that he’s successful against all odds:

I carry out 90% of the communication, etc. that goes between him and his school.

I assist Jr in the areas that I am strongest in and his father assist him in the areas that he’s strongest in “upon Jr’s request” because most nights Jr is able to do his homework independently without any assistance.

I have revised Jr’s schedule to accommodate his new school’s arrival time accordingly because we are accustomed to the dismissal time as that hasn’t changed. Jr’s evening schedule is inclusive of breaks, especially during the periods where he’s using electronics to ensure that he’s protecting his eyes as much as possible until we pickup his tinted glasses that include anti-glare.

He’s already able to do many other things independently and only needs reminders periodically. He can shower/bathe himself. He can prepare small items in the microwave (primarily reheating meals already prepared). He assists with bringing down and sorting his dirty laundry. He has finally grasped the concept of hanging up certain clothing items. He also can use his timer to ensure that his TV goes off at night so that he can rest. He uses a timer on his Ipad to assist him with maintaining track of the time he spends using electronics and the time he spends on each break as recommended  by not only his father and I, but pertinently by the eye doctor.

I am keeping notes of all his strengths and weaknesses which aren’t many weaknesses, however as we all know that “1 little thing or 1 big thing” can trigger regression and we must always be on standby. However, I encourage you all to enjoy the moments of triumph! I don’t care if it’s one hour, one day, one year, ENJOY IT!

I am also tracking the progress that I see and the few updates that I have verbally received from his new teachers. I am anxious to hear their “official report” once we have a meeting to discuss the 504 plan for this school as opposed to what we brought with us.

I encourage all parents to remain abreast to your rights as parents and advocates for your child. I encourage you to visit the National Academic Press website by visiting the following link: http://www.nap.edu/. This website offers “a wealth of information” on various topics! Many, if not all their books offer “FREE downloads!” Yes FREE information!!

You can also take advantage of the My Autism Team website by visiting my personal profile here: http://www.myautismteam.com/users/HBICTIFFANY. I must admit I am not very active on this website. This website is a good resource for those looking for doctors, teachers, other parents like ourselves who need a constant support system.

Due to my Bipolar Disorders and PTSD I often become overwhelmed with the amount of discussions etc that take place there as well as the Autism Spectrum group on Facebook and need a break from it. Not to mention, it deters me from being able to write blogs such as these to share my experiences and advice which I’ve found to be more helpful than the commenting that takes place in the “group setting.” Again whatever works for you, use it!

The last resource that I’d like to share with you all is called Rethink click the following link: http://rethinkrethink.com/ . Their full name is “Rethink The First Choice For Inclusion Education”, they are a blog site as well that has various topics and resources. Yet, what I’ve personally found most helpful are their webinars which you can access one of the recent ones by visiting this site: http://go.rethinkfirst.com/instructional-environment-best-practices/.

The reason that I prefer the webinars over the blog is obvious “I myself am a blogger!” I sit and read and write and read and write numerous hours each day on various topics and that’s not inclusive of my social media usage! Lord only knows LMAO, so when I want information “fast and efficiently” their webinars are the best answer for me. Often they even motivate me to share my experiences whether it’s on my personal blog or the site of someone else.

You can be and many are the expert on your child! Do not let their degrees, or years of experience I often hear people brag about intimidate you in anyway.

Trust me I’ve had Director’s of Special Education applaud and come to me for advice on different matters regarding developmental delays and mental illness (of course quietly) but they’ve come to me! I’ve had them utilize my services to assist in motivating other parents to not only become more active, but more accountable regarding their child’s education.

This is an ongoing process but remember where there are trials there will be triumphs. Remember my motto: “Autism isn’t a disability, it’s the ability to see and experience the world differently!”

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY

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#Candid “Black/African Americans Consumed by Consumerism Pt. 2” Are you more focused on the here and now, than the future?

“How many of you have at least what you’ve invested into your child’s wardrobe, electronics, being their friend and prom” SAVED towards their college fund, becoming an adult getting their own place fund, their funeral expenses (because your child isn’t guaranteed to make it to adulthood), etc many of us weren’t  guaranteed it;  so that should be where the money is really being spent on.

SOME Black folks are always trying to “appear to be living a life” they have NO ambition on actually attaining!! 

The few Blacks who are actually “rich not only financially but in character” have a entirely different perspective and behaviors towards life. They don’t spend “excessively” on clothing etc trying to impress others!

Their success impresses others and their “wardrobe, accessories, homes, cars, etc” are simply “things that make them comfortable and proud of their success!”

However I know “rich” people who live quite modestly because they know the true value of a dollar and they are more in tune with the corruption and distractions that consumerism causes than all you claiming to be “ballers and bosses!”

My son is “oblivious” to consumerism. It has NOTHING to do with the fact he’s diagnosed with Autism but it has everything to do with “his upbringing!” My son is being raised to be modest and humble at all times, however he’s encouraged “to live and enjoy himself” without being ostentatious!

He isn’t into Jordans, KD’s, etc he doesn’t even know who they are really! LMAO He knows who Bradley Beal is though! He knows who Mike Tyson and Muhammad Ali are though. He can tell you about Benjamin Franklin and many more.

I encourage us as a people to STOP influencing and encouraging “these appearances” and start “enforcing” educational requirements, basic life skills, job readiness skills, career preparation skills, socialism, and more!

Let’s STOP allowing “labels” to give or take away confidence! STOP allowing “labels” to indicate where you are in life! STOP rewarding “ignorance” with gifts that further breed their ignorance, disrespect, false sense of entitlement and procrastination. Let’s STOP looking to obtain things and let’s actually “MAINTAIN” our lives within our lifestyles.

I want to see more homeowners that are regular people (making over 15,000 yearly but under 75,000 yearly)! I want to see more college graduates! I want to see more of our children “wanting and inquiring about entrepreneurship and internship opportunities!” I want our children to have trust funds! I want us to teach our young men and women the importance of respecting and embracing each other within our culture.

That’s all for now.

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY

“Girls are Insecure and Inferior; while Women are Superb and Superior!”

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Good Morning My Loves!

So “as usual” girls are having “issues” with me that aren’t relevant! I say that to say “why are you so mad, concerned with, worried about” what, who and when I did anything “in my past?”

That’s right; I’m still “friends with or connected to” your “dude!”

Let me first “educate you” on a few things that as you mature or claim to mature; you’ll need to take heed to!

IF you believe or know that your man has been intimate with a “female” prior to you and that time-frame exceeds 2 years prior to you meeting and dating; then your issues are based solely on your insecurity and inferiority towards a females whose presence you can’t comprehend or compete with.

A female from a male’s past should NOT be an issue “UNLESS” she’s “caused a direct issue” within your “present relationship!”

So IF you have “snooped on him etc then you aren’t justified to “address anything you may have found, misinterpreted, etc” because everything isn’t as it seems! Some things simply aren’t your damn business because that’s a bond that you didn’t begin and you won’t be able to end! (Hence why I said you can’t comprehend or compete with it)

I am a woman! I do NOT concern myself with my husband’s past, with the exception of the “childish antics I had to address in several situations” and I haven’t heard a murmur since from those who at one time were quite eager to be “relevant in his present” when they weren’t prepared to handle him fully in the past!

I’ve had at least 1 so called friend want to have sex with him knowingly; I see the new friends on his Facebook; I see some of his exes friends and relatives keeping a watchful eye; I even have seen things he doesn’t know that I’ve seen and it’s nothing to me!

I know my place, my worth and my potential; therefore I need NOT address any female that again isn’t causing an issue in my present!

So long as you don’t catch your man with his pants down in your home, leave him alone!

I encourage you girls to “avoid” calling, stalking, emailing, contacting in any way form or fashion ….. “women” especially women like myself because if I ever “wasted time to address you accordingly” I’d end your world as you know it!

The things “I know” about him you may NEVER know; this applies vice versa.

The reason I’m still in his life isn’t for you to question or understand; you are either to respect it or be without him! This too applies to myself and my friends both male and female, because being bisexual I have both men and women I’ve been intimate with in the past, but we’ve been able to maintain a somewhat distant yet platonic relationship over the years.

Again, it’s too hot this summer and you’re all too old for all these “tantrums” IF more “females and males” focused on “being everything or close to everything for their spouses” then you wouldn’t have the time or energy to worry about “who or why someone from their past remains in their present!”

A lot of girls are insecure and inferior while women are superb and superior. Know the difference and don’t say I didn’t forewarn you.

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY

New Year New You…..

Reinventing yourself is NOT an option!

You must do this in order to succeed in life!

Reinventing yourself will definitely cause for you to humble yourself.

You will have to do what you need to do, long before you can do what you want.

Yet the step up, is priceless! That’s a feeling, that once you’ve had it…. You crave it!

If you crave it, you must satisfy it.

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY

I’m NOT mad, I AM DONE!

 

 

 

 

 

One thing about a #Virgo specifically, I #Tiffany #HBIC is that “we do NOT tolerate bullshit!” 

I’m finally in a place where “the bullshit will NOT exist!” 

The past year and even more over the past few months, I’ve ex-communicated from many people. 

I will continue to do so. 

I am NOT mad at anyone. 

I am DONE with many people. 

I DO NOT OWE any of you “an explanation, acknowledgement, humility, and damn sure NOT loyalty” as I haven’t, if I’ve ever, received it from many of you.

You’ve given me your ass to kiss, while putting your nose in the air.

You’ve wished bad on me.

You’ve purposely ignored me, in an attempt to outdo me or you simply enjoyed watching me struggle.

You smite me when you’re doing or feeling as though you’re doing better than me.

You hate me when I show you nothing but love.

You distance yourself once you realize you can’t control me.

You call me selfish because “I take great pride and care of myself regardless!”

You THINK you’re in control of my destiny.

You THINK I need you. 

You ONLY “pretend” to love, respect, and appreciate me “when you need me to do something for your sole benefit!” 

UNDERSTAND THIS: 

#Tiffany #HBIC #Virgo keeps God 1st. My mother and father are dead. Even when they were alive, they couldn’t scare or control me! 

I am an exceptional person, that ONLY A FEW will ever get to know thoroughly. 

I am NOT mad, I AM DONE! 

I have a right and I deserve to be understood, loved, accepted, supported, promoted and celebrated! 

I DO NOT DESERVE to be looked down upon, left out of the mix, discussed in your huddles, sit downs and judgement filled conversations, without the slightest attempt at “speaking with me” in regards to your concerns; because we’ve had “words in the past” or “because I’m too much for you” or my favorite hidden one “because I have a Bipolar and PTSD diagnosis and my son has an Autism diagnosis!”

Again, understand that I am NOT mad! I AM DONE! 

 

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY 

 

“Papa’s pedophile past”

IF you knew a woman whose dating a man that’s a pedophile & she has a daughter; not by him. You know because he was sexual with you. WWYD?

I’m feeling awkward b/c I see she loves him deeply, yet I’m certain doesn’t know his past.

What man would ever admit to sex w/minor? WWYD?

I’m faced “daily” with a choice to “destroy” someone’s lie, by exposing the truth or “omitting” the truth to protect their life. Smh WWYD?

I can’t say anything. Smh.

Why? I’m certain you’re asking yourself and generally wondering.

EVERY TIME I’ve attempted to “educate or forewarn” a Female about a Male I’ve dealt with or encountered; it backfired.

I’ve avoided her more lately, because my urge to expose him has increased.

It’s PURELY out of concern for her daughter. He was into them.

He was consistently sexually intimate with me. KNOWING I was a minor, where I lived, who my father was, the school I attended, etc.

It’s sad because we as women can be so blinded….

A lot of pedophiles who’ve taken advantage of me as a “minor” child are still out here.

They’re just full grown womanizer’s now.

I’m NOT going to name people specifically because the DMV wouldn’t survive it. Trust me.

However, I will be tactful enough to reveal the truth, without uprooting anyone’s lies that’s created their current life. I’m not on get back. I’m not looking for a big payout either.

I NEED PEACE. I need to know that all I’ve seen, heard and endured wasn’t only for me. That I experienced that so another young woman won’t have to. So another son won’t be ashamed of or without his mother. So another young male or female won’t be ashamed to expose or fight off their pedophile.

These people prey on your weaknesses, insecurities and poverty primarily to satisfy their own insecurities, weaknesses and spiritual poverty, because anyone over age 21 who can view a 10-16 year old “with lust” I don’t give a fuck how sexually open or active she was, you’re a sick motherfucker!

A follower of mine, who’ll I’ll leave anonymous for now ((because I haven’t asked for his permission to include our conversations, although also public in this post) told me to “inform the father!”

Here’s my rebuttal: 

I don’t know directly or of the child’s father. I barely know the child’s mother. I know the male she’s dating all too well though. In a perfect world, that option would be great! 😉
 
HIM: She should definitely be told. Her feelings are irrelevant when it comes to the safety of her child…
 
hbic_philanthropyHmm that’s my thoughts, but because of my past negative encounters with women in similar situations it makes me apprehensive, in addition to the fact it’s been 17 years since the incidents occurred and he served time in jail etc. He may not remember me, but I’ll never forget him and seeing their pics, I’m just Smh @HIM my blog post will be a way of “telling” without hurting or interfering because I honestly couldn’t “appropriately” withstand being attacked or ridiculed for trying to help. Plus she’s head over heels in love so I’m already seeing she’s not going to hear me.
 
hbic_philanthropyHonestly speaking as all else in my life, if it’s meant in God’s will for me to expose him to her, when he moves my spirit nothing and nobody will stop it, not even myself. I’m tired of “being insecure” about these men who I thought cared, etc. I’m in a place where I too need to heal etc. @HIM

Now after having that opportunity to voice my opinion with him over social media, I was left with quiet time to myself. I’ve decided that I won’t be like “super head” and write a tell all book! I had a .5 second thought about writing a tell all blog first as a first part to a 7 part book series.

Then a few “key incidents” played in slow motion in my mind and the thought was killed and buried forever. 

The reason is because “I’m actually ashamed” that it’s taken me this long to “get angry enough” to discuss or even expose these filthy bastards.

My life has changed for the better, some of theirs have also. Only a few have actually done worse or have died as a result of their lifestyles and God’s will.

Another reason is “I’m more than that!”

Meaning, I don’t have anything to prove and I’m NOT about “destroying homes, etc” however if put in a position where someone “demands” information “I can only give you the truth or I’ll stay silent!” 

Next reason is because I’d rather my son NOT “read about incidents” but I’d prefer to tell him the specific details, names, places, etc “IF” he desires that depth of knowledge regarding my past promiscuity. I’ll be certain to inform of him of incidents that closely, if not directly relate to incidents, etc that he may be experiencing with a young woman. 

Last reason, being a #Virgo, I’m extremely private! As public and extroverted as I am and can be, I’m actually 10 ten times as private and as many of you say “sneaky” whereas I prefer to say “tactful!” 

I ONLY want people to know “What I expose” and “how I expose it” IN MY TIME! 

Now, back on topic! 

This post is to “URGE” women to be an “interviewer” when “dating men” EVEN THOSE that you’ve grown up with or around.

Meaning, do your recon. Pull his “public record”, run his name through http://www.bop.gov because it’ll tell you about his “past incarcerations” that he may NOT have mentioned and probably intended on NEVER mentioning to you.

Depending on “how much you’ll want to know, how soon and what you’re willing to sacrifice once the knowledge is obtained” perform an internet bought background check or ask him to give you a copy of his credit report. 

You’d be surprised at the things you’ll find and the time you’ll save! TRUST ME. 

Please, ask questions, “hear answers” but seek truth! 

Women, also be a little more open-minded when other women come to you with information. Every woman that “comes to you” about your man “isn’t hating, doesn’t want him or you, and isn’t being (intrusive) nosey”

SOME are sincerely trying to help, if not SAVE you from your own hell. 

Last but certainly NOT least, please “monitor” your children and their interactions with these men you are dating.

DO NOT be so eager to introduce your children to a man that you haven’t dated “at least 6 months.” I do believe he should “have knowledge” that you have children, how many and the relationship dynamic and status between you and the other parent.

DO NOT be so eager to have a “male role model/influence” in your home.

DO NOT be too comfortable with the male you’re dating being close with your children, especially where physical interaction is involved. 

I’ve seen some “subtle” pedophiles even recently!

I had one incident where a man that was dating an adult woman, was closer and more open with her daughter “about their relationship” than he ever was or would’ve been with the woman he was dating.

It appeared to me that he was “buttering” the daughter up for his own pleasures later, because it made and still at this very moment “makes NO sense” to me as to why he was more comfortable speaking to and with a “child” than to the adult he was actively having sex with and technically living with and dating. 

I also pay close attention to the “context” in which many men make their statements and react thereafter.

Trust some of them “can’t help themselves” and if you’re paying attention you’ll catch it. 

Teach your children about appropriate relationships. Educate them on the fact that if their under the age of 18 anyone 18 or older shouldn’t be “discussing, and damn sure shouldn’t be attempting to engage them physically into sex or drug activities!”

Explain to them and “be sincere” about them being able to “tell you” if anyone was to touch them or converse with them about sexual or drug activity.

Please LISTEN to your children. Please DO your research IF you have ANY doubts about your child or children’s accusations!

PAY ATTENTION TO THESE MENTORS!!!

PAY ATTENTION TO THE OLDER SIBLINGS, OLDER COUSINS, DRUG ABUSERS IN THE FAMILY!

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR “OVERLY CONCERNED NEIGHBOR!”

IF your child has a special need, i.e., developmental delay or mental illness/condition; PLEASE TAKE HEED!! Use all resources available to you to assist in teaching them about people and incidents such as the aforementioned. 

 

 

From age 10- 17 (years 95-02) ANY male that slept with me who was 18 or over IS A PEDOPHILE! 

You all have gotten off “easy” because I was naive, and once I became “knowledgeable” I didn’t care, because I had to survive. I considered myself “doing what needed to be done” NOT realizing nor concerning myself with the overall damage it would cause me, especially, but also others around me in the years to come. 

I’ve recently had to “inform, then check” a pedophile whose 9 years older than I am. This ignorant nigga, REALLY BELIEVES that he helped and loved me! LMAO

He STILL doesn’t get that when I was 13 when we met and he was 22, he’s a pedophile!

He doesn’t think so and even tried to imply that my husband is one because we’re 25 years apart. I confirmed for him, NO SIR! You “knew” I wasn’t 16 as I attempted to lie to you.

My husband “assumed” I was older because we met through mutual friends who are his age. However, upon meeting and interviewing each other “prior to any sex” he learned  I was of legal age, 19 to be exact.

He wasn’t pleased. He was actually ashamed and apprehensive, because I “am” the youngest woman he’s dated since being an adult himself! He also has daughters just a few “steps” behind me, son’s a few steps ahead of me; so trust me I totally understood the initial shame and apprehension. 

There were even two women who were “poverty pimps” they “wanted me to believe” and recently attempted to “convince me” yet again, they love and care for me.

LMAO yet, 98% of my entire “residency” with them consisted of me “providing” for them through degrading or enslaving myself. They were madame’s if you will! I wasn’t quite a minor, but I was “the youth”16-19 to be exact during that time and they, especially your “grave deep ass” took sole advantage of “my desire for a better future!”

The head madame, really “thought” she had me. No bitch! I am DONE with “motherfuckering leeches!” 

This is what “pedophiles, rapists, molesters, DO!

They “convince you” that they’re helping you, meanwhile they’re actually helping you to hurt yourself while pleasing them!

They “convince you” that you need them, they love you, nobody will ever come along and help you etc as they do.

ALL the while “you’re exchanging money and sex with them, ONLY to receive insecurity, paranoia, distrust, lustful flesh,etc.”

Point made is “a man” WON’T want any parts of a child! A “nigga” “cunt” “coon” “boy” “leech” etc will “use and abuse” anyone and anything to appease him or herself! 

Again, understand this posts and “those that’ll follow” ARE NOT to “expose the people” IF you are seeking “confirmation” of who I’m referencing I highly advise you “to get some business!” 

This post is “for informational and reference purposes ONLY!” 

This post is for me to “free myself” of the spiritual bounds it’s held on me for so long.

This post gave me the chance to finally “let go” and let God deal with ya’ll. 

I’ve been blessed and I’m continuing to be blessed, even via this post right now! 

As my fingers strike each key I feel a litte lighter, because my silent crying at night while everyone sleeps can finally begin to diminish. 

Finally I can sleep “knowing” I won’t see your face, hear your voice or have to acknowledge your presence. For those I’ve recently seen, know that God ONLY did that to show me “his power, grace and mercy!” IT WAS NOT, I REPEAT…… IT WAS “NOT” THE ANSWER TO YOUR PRAYER! 

You’re a “leech” and your partner in crime is too. You can break away from her, to save your life literally. I’ve witnessed this myself. I admired you at one time and I upon my departure pitied you and I pity you more now. After 10 years you’d think you grew your own back bone or at least strengthen what you had and were confident enough and physically able to stand upright with your head held high! 

I avert, because your “disability” isn’t my concern, because God continues to show off my “abilities!” 

I pray that those “few” aforementioned people and incidents that I’ve discussed were a wide enough eye opener for many of you! 

We live in a very cruel and corrupt world. I don’t wish paranoia on anyone, however I do pray that many of you become “attentive and accountable” not only for yourselves, but especially for your children as you’re evolving and allowing people to enter in or exit your lives. 

Keep in mind, that there’s a little devil in every angel, because the devil is a fallen angel. 

P.S. to all the women like myself who “did not” snitch because of shame, being naive, being vulnerable and immature, believing you were truly being loved because you were infatuated with the idea of loving and being loved, etc. PLEASE DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF! 

I REPEAT, DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF for any of the incidents you underwent or for another young ladies incidents. I hate to admit, even if you had reported your crime in a timely fashion etc, it doesn’t STOP intent! 

A person’s intent is where the tragedy begins, not when a naive or desperate young male or female is “preyed” upon by a conscious, calculating, arrogant, pedophile! 

Know that the Lord God our Father which is art in Heaven, is the Almighty and they will be brought to justice in one form or another, but in his time! 

TRUST ME, I AM LIVING PROOF THAT HE WILL ELEVATE YOU, THEN USE THEM AS YOUR FOOT STOOL AND YOUR WITNESSES OF HIS GRACE, MERCY, AND BLESSINGS!!! 

 

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY 

“Papa’s pedophile past”

IF you knew a woman whose dating a man that’s a pedophile & she has a daughter; not by him. You know because he was sexual with you. WWYD?

I’m feeling awkward b/c I see she loves him deeply, yet I’m certain doesn’t know his past.

What man would ever admit to sex w/minor? WWYD?

I’m faced “daily” with a choice to “destroy” someone’s lie, by exposing the truth or “omitting” the truth to protect their life. Smh WWYD?

I can’t say anything. Smh.

Why? I’m certain you’re asking yourself and generally wondering.

EVERY TIME I’ve attempted to “educate or forewarn” a Female about a Male I’ve dealt with or encountered; it backfired.

I’ve avoided her more lately, because my urge to expose him has increased.

It’s PURELY out of concern for her daughter. He was into them.

He was consistently sexually intimate with me. KNOWING I was a minor, where I lived, who my father was, the school I attended, etc.

It’s sad because we as women can be so blinded….

A lot of pedophiles who’ve taken advantage of me as a “minor” child are still out here.

They’re just full grown womanizer’s now.

I’m NOT going to name people specifically because the DMV wouldn’t survive it. Trust me.

However, I will be tactful enough to reveal the truth, without uprooting anyone’s lies that’s created their current life. I’m not on get back. I’m not looking for a big payout either.

I NEED PEACE. I need to know that all I’ve seen, heard and endured wasn’t only for me. That I experienced that so another young woman won’t have to. So another son won’t be ashamed of or without his mother. So another young male or female won’t be ashamed to expose or fight off their pedophile.

These people prey on your weaknesses, insecurities and poverty primarily to satisfy their own insecurities, weaknesses and spiritual poverty, because anyone over age 21 who can view a 10-16 year old “with lust” I don’t give a fuck how sexually open or active she was, you’re a sick motherfucker!

A follower of mine, who’ll I’ll leave anonymous for now ((because I haven’t asked for his permission to include our conversations, although also public in this post) told me to “inform the father!”

Here’s my rebuttal: 

I don’t know directly or of the child’s father. I barely know the child’s mother. I know the male she’s dating all too well though. In a perfect world, that option would be great! 😉
 
HIM: She should definitely be told. Her feelings are irrelevant when it comes to the safety of her child…
 
hbic_philanthropyHmm that’s my thoughts, but because of my past negative encounters with women in similar situations it makes me apprehensive, in addition to the fact it’s been 17 years since the incidents occurred and he served time in jail etc. He may not remember me, but I’ll never forget him and seeing their pics, I’m just Smh @HIM my blog post will be a way of “telling” without hurting or interfering because I honestly couldn’t “appropriately” withstand being attacked or ridiculed for trying to help. Plus she’s head over heels in love so I’m already seeing she’s not going to hear me.
 
hbic_philanthropyHonestly speaking as all else in my life, if it’s meant in God’s will for me to expose him to her, when he moves my spirit nothing and nobody will stop it, not even myself. I’m tired of “being insecure” about these men who I thought cared, etc. I’m in a place where I too need to heal etc. @HIM

Now after having that opportunity to voice my opinion with him over social media, I was left with quiet time to myself. I’ve decided that I won’t be like “super head” and write a tell all book! I had a .5 second thought about writing a tell all blog first as a first part to a 7 part book series.

Then a few “key incidents” played in slow motion in my mind and the thought was killed and buried forever. 

The reason is because “I’m actually ashamed” that it’s taken me this long to “get angry enough” to discuss or even expose these filthy bastards.

My life has changed for the better, some of theirs have also. Only a few have actually done worse or have died as a result of their lifestyles and God’s will.

Another reason is “I’m more than that!”

Meaning, I don’t have anything to prove and I’m NOT about “destroying homes, etc” however if put in a position where someone “demands” information “I can only give you the truth or I’ll stay silent!” 

Next reason is because I’d rather my son NOT “read about incidents” but I’d prefer to tell him the specific details, names, places, etc “IF” he desires that depth of knowledge regarding my past promiscuity. I’ll be certain to inform of him of incidents that closely, if not directly relate to incidents, etc that he may be experiencing with a young woman. 

Last reason, being a #Virgo, I’m extremely private! As public and extroverted as I am and can be, I’m actually 10 ten times as private and as many of you say “sneaky” whereas I prefer to say “tactful!” 

I ONLY want people to know “What I expose” and “how I expose it” IN MY TIME! 

Now, back on topic! 

This post is to “URGE” women to be an “interviewer” when “dating men” EVEN THOSE that you’ve grown up with or around.

Meaning, do your recon. Pull his “public record”, run his name through http://www.bop.gov because it’ll tell you about his “past incarcerations” that he may NOT have mentioned and probably intended on NEVER mentioning to you.

Depending on “how much you’ll want to know, how soon and what you’re willing to sacrifice once the knowledge is obtained” perform an internet bought background check or ask him to give you a copy of his credit report. 

You’d be surprised at the things you’ll find and the time you’ll save! TRUST ME. 

Please, ask questions, “hear answers” but seek truth! 

Women, also be a little more open-minded when other women come to you with information. Every woman that “comes to you” about your man “isn’t hating, doesn’t want him or you, and isn’t being (intrusive) nosey”

SOME are sincerely trying to help, if not SAVE you from your own hell. 

Last but certainly NOT least, please “monitor” your children and their interactions with these men you are dating.

DO NOT be so eager to introduce your children to a man that you haven’t dated “at least 6 months.” I do believe he should “have knowledge” that you have children, how many and the relationship dynamic and status between you and the other parent.

DO NOT be so eager to have a “male role model/influence” in your home.

DO NOT be too comfortable with the male you’re dating being close with your children, especially where physical interaction is involved. 

I’ve seen some “subtle” pedophiles even recently!

I had one incident where a man that was dating an adult woman, was closer and more open with her daughter “about their relationship” than he ever was or would’ve been with the woman he was dating.

It appeared to me that he was “buttering” the daughter up for his own pleasures later, because it made and still at this very moment “makes NO sense” to me as to why he was more comfortable speaking to and with a “child” than to the adult he was actively having sex with and technically living with and dating. 

I also pay close attention to the “context” in which many men make their statements and react thereafter.

Trust some of them “can’t help themselves” and if you’re paying attention you’ll catch it. 

Teach your children about appropriate relationships. Educate them on the fact that if their under the age of 18 anyone 18 or older shouldn’t be “discussing, and damn sure shouldn’t be attempting to engage them physically into sex or drug activities!”

Explain to them and “be sincere” about them being able to “tell you” if anyone was to touch them or converse with them about sexual or drug activity.

Please LISTEN to your children. Please DO your research IF you have ANY doubts about your child or children’s accusations!

PAY ATTENTION TO THESE MENTORS!!!

PAY ATTENTION TO THE OLDER SIBLINGS, OLDER COUSINS, DRUG ABUSERS IN THE FAMILY!

PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR “OVERLY CONCERNED NEIGHBOR!”

IF your child has a special need, i.e., developmental delay or mental illness/condition; PLEASE TAKE HEED!! Use all resources available to you to assist in teaching them about people and incidents such as the aforementioned. 

 

 

From age 10- 17 (years 95-02) ANY male that slept with me who was 18 or over IS A PEDOPHILE! 

You all have gotten off “easy” because I was naive, and once I became “knowledgeable” I didn’t care, because I had to survive. I considered myself “doing what needed to be done” NOT realizing nor concerning myself with the overall damage it would cause me, especially, but also others around me in the years to come. 

I’ve recently had to “inform, then check” a pedophile whose 9 years older than I am. This ignorant nigga, REALLY BELIEVES that he helped and loved me! LMAO

He STILL doesn’t get that when I was 13 when we met and he was 22, he’s a pedophile!

He doesn’t think so and even tried to imply that my husband is one because we’re 25 years apart. I confirmed for him, NO SIR! You “knew” I wasn’t 16 as I attempted to lie to you.

My husband “assumed” I was older because we met through mutual friends who are his age. However, upon meeting and interviewing each other “prior to any sex” he learned  I was of legal age, 19 to be exact.

He wasn’t pleased. He was actually ashamed and apprehensive, because I “am” the youngest woman he’s dated since being an adult himself! He also has daughters just a few “steps” behind me, son’s a few steps ahead of me; so trust me I totally understood the initial shame and apprehension. 

There were even two women who were “poverty pimps” they “wanted me to believe” and recently attempted to “convince me” yet again, they love and care for me.

LMAO yet, 98% of my entire “residency” with them consisted of me “providing” for them through degrading or enslaving myself. They were madame’s if you will! I wasn’t quite a minor, but I was “the youth”16-19 to be exact during that time and they, especially your “grave deep ass” took sole advantage of “my desire for a better future!”

The head madame, really “thought” she had me. No bitch! I am DONE with “motherfuckering leeches!” 

This is what “pedophiles, rapists, molesters, DO!

They “convince you” that they’re helping you, meanwhile they’re actually helping you to hurt yourself while pleasing them!

They “convince you” that you need them, they love you, nobody will ever come along and help you etc as they do.

ALL the while “you’re exchanging money and sex with them, ONLY to receive insecurity, paranoia, distrust, lustful flesh,etc.”

Point made is “a man” WON’T want any parts of a child! A “nigga” “cunt” “coon” “boy” “leech” etc will “use and abuse” anyone and anything to appease him or herself! 

Again, understand this posts and “those that’ll follow” ARE NOT to “expose the people” IF you are seeking “confirmation” of who I’m referencing I highly advise you “to get some business!” 

This post is “for informational and reference purposes ONLY!” 

This post is for me to “free myself” of the spiritual bounds it’s held on me for so long.

This post gave me the chance to finally “let go” and let God deal with ya’ll. 

I’ve been blessed and I’m continuing to be blessed, even via this post right now! 

As my fingers strike each key I feel a litte lighter, because my silent crying at night while everyone sleeps can finally begin to diminish. 

Finally I can sleep “knowing” I won’t see your face, hear your voice or have to acknowledge your presence. For those I’ve recently seen, know that God ONLY did that to show me “his power, grace and mercy!” IT WAS NOT, I REPEAT…… IT WAS “NOT” THE ANSWER TO YOUR PRAYER! 

You’re a “leech” and your partner in crime is too. You can break away from her, to save your life literally. I’ve witnessed this myself. I admired you at one time and I upon my departure pitied you and I pity you more now. After 10 years you’d think you grew your own back bone or at least strengthen what you had and were confident enough and physically able to stand upright with your head held high! 

I avert, because your “disability” isn’t my concern, because God continues to show off my “abilities!” 

I pray that those “few” aforementioned people and incidents that I’ve discussed were a wide enough eye opener for many of you! 

We live in a very cruel and corrupt world. I don’t wish paranoia on anyone, however I do pray that many of you become “attentive and accountable” not only for yourselves, but especially for your children as you’re evolving and allowing people to enter in or exit your lives. 

Keep in mind, that there’s a little devil in every angel, because the devil is a fallen angel. 

P.S. to all the women like myself who “did not” snitch because of shame, being naive, being vulnerable and immature, believing you were truly being loved because you were infatuated with the idea of loving and being loved, etc. PLEASE DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF! 

I REPEAT, DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF for any of the incidents you underwent or for another young ladies incidents. I hate to admit, even if you had reported your crime in a timely fashion etc, it doesn’t STOP intent! 

A person’s intent is where the tragedy begins, not when a naive or desperate young male or female is “preyed” upon by a conscious, calculating, arrogant, pedophile! 

Know that the Lord God our Father which is art in Heaven, is the Almighty and they will be brought to justice in one form or another, but in his time! 

TRUST ME, I AM LIVING PROOF THAT HE WILL ELEVATE YOU, THEN USE THEM AS YOUR FOOT STOOL AND YOUR WITNESSES OF HIS GRACE, MERCY, AND BLESSINGS!!! 

 

HBIC_PHILANTHROPY